Why if I can't talk to someone are they the ones who're in dire straights in a diverse set of people in a relationship? They matter, but maybe they like different people. I just got thru trying to assimilate with them and ended up in a rut. I think I did it again more successfully. However, the people spying on me are mad at me even tho I was nice.They think I was too smart saying "in dire straights" in such a context. It elicits okay things.